Money can be a touchy subject, especially when you're in a relationship. Whether you're just starting out together or you've been together for years, managing money together can be challenging.
I am sure everyone reading this would have had or seen couples arguing about money. Many relationships have been destroyed or currently being strained because of money. Yet, it is not something that is talked about on a regular basis in the public.
However, it's not just about the numbers. We'll also discuss the emotional aspects of money management in relationships. How do you have those difficult conversations about money without it turning into a fight? How do you balance individual financial goals with shared aspirations? And how do you build trust and mutual respect when it comes to money matters?
Why "Get Naked," you ask?
It came from a personal experience. Despite us budgeting and managing our finances, we were having constant fights about finance. We realized that we were doing it separately. We had our own budgets and goals, which of course led to us being pulled in different directions. So of course, being the romantic guy, I seduced my wife in the sexiest voice and said,
“Let’s get naked together with our money”.
Ohhh, who am I kidding. It never came up that way, but I take full acknowledgment of the concept. Lol.
So, one day we sat together, and we laid all our cards on the table. Was it tedious and overwhelming at the start? Yes! What we thought would take about an hour, took several hours.
However, we notice something, while we knew parts of each other situation, like our debts and some of our responsibilities. It was the first time we saw the full picture. That allowed us to understand and emphasize with each other. Now, I got why my wife would make this decision and she now got mine. We connected on an even deeper level through our finance.
Awwwwwww, yeah, yeah, yeah cute. I know.
Now, I am not saying this is a fairytale, so don’t expect the “happily ever after.”
This requires constant time and dedication into each other about finance. There is no overnight cure, but it was a start for us. What use to be a difficult conversation gradually got easier and more trust was built which led to the arguments getting less.
Whether you're just starting to merge your finances, or you've been managing money together for years, the Get Naked Series is here to support you on your journey towards financial harmony as a couple. So, grab a cup of coffee, cozy up with your partner, and let's get naked (figuratively, of course)!
Stay tuned for the first installment of the series, where we'll tackle the importance of communication in managing money as a couple.
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What to expect?
We'll explore common challenges couples face when it comes to money and provide practical tips and advice to help you navigate them successfully.
1. Honest Money Conversations: We will discuss talking about the importance of honest communication when it comes to managing money as a couple. We'll discuss how to have those difficult conversations about money without it turning into a fight and share tips for fostering open and honest communication with your partner.
2. Spending Plan: As I said, getting naked is about putting all the cards on the table. What better way to start it, than to write the full numbers in front of your partner, from income to expenses. I show how being transparent and managing money together will give persons the freedom to enjoy their money and not have to worry about what their partner will think.
3. Financial Goals: How do you manage when one partner wants to save while the other wants to go on a well-deserved vacation? Being pulled in two different directions can result in nobody reaching their goals and many arguments in between. Therefore, finding common goals will be vital for a couples to thrive.
4. Tackling Debt: How do you manage if there are imbalances between couples when it comes to debt? Should we save the partner who is heavily debt? Should we even accept the help from our partner? I want to discuss these situations and look at ways how to tackle the subject now and not to avoid them.
5. Dealing with Differences: It is very rare for two persons to have the same mindset when it comes to money. Our mindset generally comes from past experiences, such as our childhood. Therefore, differences will exist. How do we manage those situations?
6. Building Trust: I think this will be a common theme throughout the series as I believe this is the foundation of any healthy relationship.
Whether you're just starting out on your financial journey together or you've been managing money as a couple for years, we are here to support you. Our goal is to provide you with the tools and resources you need to navigate the often-tricky waters of managing money as a couple.
Feel free to send a private message on our website if there is a particular topic you think we should discuss.
Until then, remember - it's time to get naked. (figuratively, of course)
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